There is a false form of honesty that suggests that nothing should remain hidden and that everything should be said, expressed, and communicated.
This honesty can be very harmful, and if it does not harm, it at least makes the relationship flat, superficial, empty, and often very boring.
When we try to shake off our loneliness by creating a milieu without limiting boundaries, we may become entangled in a stagnating closeness. It is our vocation to prevent the harmful exposure of our inner sanctuary, not only for our own protection but also as a service to our fellow human beings with whom we want to enter in a creative communion.
Just as words lose their power when they are not born out of silence, so openness loses its meaning when there is no ability to be closed.
– Henri Nouwen